Perspective they say is everything, and when we choose to look at situations with new eyes, better yet God’s eyes, we are given a real invitation to grow in faith..
Currently, in our society where individualism and our own happiness has been regarded as utmost priority there is great emphasis placed on that which makes us momentarily feel good. We are quick to avoid the situations that disturb our inner peace, upset out schedule and call us out of our comfort zone. Even in our relationships we grumble, resist and distance ourselves from those that are most difficult to deal with.
I pause here for an honest confession… I have chosen the path of feeling annoyed and complaining lately. Faced with a seemingly unchanging resistance from others to my own desire to be joyful, I had decided it best to create some distance. A mini retreat of sorts, I recognized that I needed a break in order to get a bit of perspective. In taking this opportunity to go out into the “wilderness” to spend some alone time in prayer, to reflect on what is being asked of me I now have a better understanding of what Christ desires.
First, I realize that I cannot remain on permanent retreat from all that I feel attempts to steal my joy. Obvious exemptions would be situations that are physically or mentally abusive. Yet, what I am talking about are difficult people, or particularly trying situations that continually test my patience and call for regular forgiveness.
Case in point:
1.The “one way or no way” attitude: The phone rings and I notice the caller id. As the conversation ensues I am struck by the familiarity of the questions and topics of discussion. Can we ever go deeper? No, not if it remains a one sided barrage of questions where there is only one answer desired. No, not if there isn’t active listening, appreciation of the other person, and a desire to have true dialogue. So, I listen and leave the discussion wondering why I spent my time in this way.
2. The “blinking red light”: Here is the person that is constantly in hot water. If the issue doesn’t involve them directly they feel it necessary to stir the waters that potentially create a tempest situation. Oh, did you have plans today? Well, this is far more important and if you weren’t concerned before..you should be by now. So, I listen, offer advice, help where I can, and spend the day praying that they find peace.
Selfishly at times I have asked God, “Why have you placed these rocks in my path, why am I being asked to deal with stubbornness and anxiety?”
His answer, “Elizabeth because you have yet to learn the incredible lessons of love and forgiveness that I have been so desperately seeking to instill in you! Do you honestly think that you are without fault, malleable, secure in my loving plan and accepting of all that I am calling you to be?”
“No, Father… I have much to learn. Yet, I am desperately trying to understand though. Isn’t that good?”
Yes, but you cannot get comfortable with where you are- because I am asking so much more of you. Each of my children has a purpose and a journey. Sometimes this journey leads others to learn from you and other times their purpose is to challenge you to grow.
I have choices in how I encounter others. If my life isn’t rooted in love, patience, and forgiveness, how are others to truly know Christ through me? Moreover, our lives are meant to be proof of God’s deep call to a new life, faith that though times get difficult there is hope that our loving Father is working all for good. This inbreaking of the Kingdom of God isn’t merely an inner journey or a futuristic promise of heaven…but it begins with me today.
5 thoughts on “Worth Revisiting: Joy Stealer or Faith Grower?”
This revisit was placed in my path today, thanks. Just what I needed to hear!
Such a beautiful thought – we have people placed in our lives to serve a purpose and a journey. Maintaining that perspective is more difficult than easy, at times, so this is a good, gentle reminder.
About the “one way or no way” attitude, I am not sure what a good response would be. I suspect there is not just one.
My experience with such conversations is generally online these days: and, happily, a rare experience.
On the one hand, endless patience and reasoned response to repetitive and abusive questions can seem “virtuous.”
On the other hand, I don’t have endless patience; and think it is possible that allowing or encouraging someone else to continue practicing such behavior is not good for the other person – – – as well as wearing on my one, last, frayed nerve. 😉
But “listening,” virtually otherwise? Yes – that seems like a good idea, at least until the diatribe starts repeating itself.
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Amen Brian! Patience is rarely endless even for the most virtuous. However, it is a virtue worth practicing as I would want my heavenly Father to be very patient with me!
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